Acceptance
Acceptance is a part of the path we set out on when beginning to understand ‘Clearing.’
Simplified, it is not a part of the path, it is the path. Everything else we do on this journey of ours revolves around our ability to accept.
This may, or may not, be easy, it really depends upon what we are asked to accept — what we ‘meet’ along the way. Additionally we need to consider how safe we feel with certain information. Assume that safety arises with conscious awareness and acceptance of old conditioning.
Old conditioning is what makes the ‘shadow’ in Jung’s terms, the backpack in mine, possible. Information that we have buried deep, for whatever reason, that remains hidden in the sub-conscious. All the time this information remains hidden we are victims to it with no awareness that this is the case.
We cannot possibly be safe all the while we are driven by this subconscious conditioning.
So, many factors are involved in our ability to accept. Personal feelings of safety are at the top of the list.
The goal is to become fully conscious, no longer carrying around all sorts of memories / information in the back pack. Again, this can be a slow or a quick process, many factors again influence this.
Acceptance of ‘what is’ will be seen by many as a surrender to that which we oppose. This ‘point-of-view’ can only arise from a judgemental place, if we extend this understanding and see how our fundamental, judgemental, state has been very much responsible for creating our personal reality, then of course it would seem as though acceptance would be a capitulation.
Yet, as we continue to develop our ability to accept — and Space Clearing is an excellent tool to access greater acceptance — then slowly we reduce the amount of energy we give to any judgmental point of view. This has the effect of changing that which presents, or shows up, on our path. With less judgement being expressed, less judgmental situations appear on the path.
As we practice this way of being, the need to judge slowly collapses and a much smoother, easier path opens up before us.
Many people have issues with accepting what shows up though. If we are dealing with a lifetime of giving energy to a preferential point of view, then that becomes established in our perceptions of reality. This perception, or point of view appears to be so well established in our world view that we cannot possibly consider any options as being valid.
Yet adhering to these old perceptions are what cause personal conflict to arise in our lives, personal conflict that is so uncomfortable that we have to ‘do’ something about it.
The moment we feel we have to do something is the moment we are saying to ourselves this is real, what can I do to alleviate or avoid these symptoms. Then, the act of doing requires energy, choices, decisions, which only exasperate or amplify the symptoms that we are trying to ‘do’ something about. This is not acceptance! This is battling with symptoms that have arisen, due in great part to the previously, subconsciously, held judgments.
One way to begin to overcome these more intense feelings that lead us into ‘doing’ something can be to dip our toe into the water. Meaning, before we are triggered into an old pattern, we recall what the dominant feeling was. Just briefly, we experience the memory as it changes our physiology, before the feeling becomes intense enough that we have to ‘do’ something about it, we acknowledge the feeling, we accept it (easy because it is only a very small part of what we experience when lost in that feeling) and then, we ask ourselves, “What’s next?” Thus changing our focus away from the problem thereby not giving it any energy to grow.
It is no good waiting for the feeling to manifest in all its power and then trying to let it go, that is too late.
We should practice this at least twice a day, gradually stepping up the time our toe is in the water until the feeling lessens to such a degree that it no longer grows into the monster that we have been battling for much, if not all, of our lives.
This is the practice of acceptance.
Try it for yourself.